I live in an apartment with 3 other roommates. It’s campus housing at my school. I didn’t choose them- they didn’t choose me.
I want to start this off by saying that I think they are nice girls. They have good hearts- they are smart and they have fun personalities. But I just don’t connect with them.
Today they planned a day for us to go to lunch and then have a photo shoot together which they call “roommate pictures,” which are essentially engagement pictures without the kissing and eye gazing. This is something that the people at this school do and so they just assumed that I was on board. They assumed that I wanted to take these photos. They didn’t ask me. They made the plans on the assumption that I was okay with it. But I’m not.
It’s not that I want to be that hostile roommate that doesn’t engage. I don’t want to make them mad or hate me. I just don’t want to take the pictures, and the fact that they assumed that I did just goes to show you that they clearly don’t care what I think. I don’t say that in a rude, “how dare they” sort of way. I’m stating it factually.
I just had to tell them that I am not going to lunch with them and I do not want to take pictures. They asked why and told me that I should, in the whiny way girls do when they don’t get their way, and when I told them it was because I felt uncomfortable taking them and that they hadn’t even asked me in the first place if I wanted to do it, they got upset, and then quiet, and said “okay.” and left. they aren’t bummed that I am not doing them- they could care less about it. They are hurt because I rejected their idea. But the truth of the matter is, I am here for school. I am going to study today- further myself academically, and graduate here with good grades and a future.
From now on I am expecting them to hold grudges and being mad at me, quiet around me, and speak loudly about me when I’m not around because they can’t believe they didn’t have a roommate that wanted to take futile pictures with them.
